How We Start
Reconnect sexually without feeling rejected or wondering if your partner even wants you.
How We Start is A private session for sapphic and trans couples, mapping out your specific initiation style so no one feels responsible or obligated to “start” and everyone feels desired.
The Nude Attitude · Single Session
You’re not bad at initiating.
You’re just not speaking the same language.
A 60-minute session to understand how you and your partner actually experience desire and how to initiate in ways that feel natural, wanted, and enthusiastic.
$250
I only take 5 sessions a week. Once 5 spots are filled the week will be blocked off. Get your spot so you are not waiting weeks or months!
You love your partner.
You want intimacy.
But when it comes to starting sex, something feels off.
Maybe:
One of you always initiates (and is getting tired)
The other thinks they initiate but it’s not being recognized
Attempts get missed, misread, or shut down
Initiation feels like pressure instead of connection
You’ve stopped trying altogether
This isn’t a chemistry problem.
It’s not a desire problem.
It’s an initiation mismatch.
What This Session Does
In this 1:1 session, we’ll map how desire and initiation actually work for both of you.
Not in theory, in your real relationship.
Who This Is For?
You’re in a sapphic relationship and there’s no “default” script for who initiates so both of you are waiting for the other person to start.
One of you always initiates and is starting to feel like the only one who wants sex (even though you know that’s not true).
You’ve tried “just talking about it” and the conversation went nowhere.
You are exhausted from reading each other’s minds and getting it wrong. You just want someone to translate what’s actually happening.
One of you is transitioning and the only dynamic doesn’t fit anymore but you don’t know what the new one should look like.
You’ve figured out you have mismatched desire styles but you don’t know what to do with that information.
One hour.
A lot can shift.
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We’ll identify your current initiation patterns:
How you signal desire
What you respond to
Where things break down
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We’ll bridge the gap between your styles:
What your partner actually means when they initiate
Why certain approaches aren’t landing
Where mismatches are happening
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You’ll leave with:
Personalized initiation ideas for each of you
Low-pressure ways to try something new
A plan for what to do when initiation doesn’t land
Inside your session
What You’ll Walk Away With…
By the end of the session, you will have:
A clear understanding of your initiation patterns
Language for how each of you experiences desire
Insight into what’s currently being missed or misread
2–3 specific, realistic ways to initiate that fit both of you
Tools to reduce pressure, rejection, and confusion
A shared framework you can continue using after the session
Madeline Gregg
Sex Educator and Sexologist
ABS Certified
Since 2020
Trans & Sapphic Specialist
I'm the only science based intimacy educator working exclusively with trans, sapphic, and trans-adjacent clients. Not because I decided to specialize as a business move, but because I watched this community get handed resources that weren't designed for them, and I decided that wasn't acceptable.
I'm certified through the American Board of Sexology. I understand what HRT does to arousal patterns, how antidepressants affect desire, and how to navigate desire mismatch in relationships that don't follow a "standard" script. I'm not your therapist and I'm not your doctor, I'm the bridge between them. The practical, science-backed intimacy education that neither of them can provide.
Nothing you share will make me flinch. I've heard it, I understand it, and I know what to do with it.